Second blog post of the night, while I distract myself from looming surgery.
I came across this blog: Feminist Female Comedians Agree There Are Different Kinds of Rape
At first I was speechless.
Then I was depressed.
Then I was angry.
(Short aside: The previous emotions don’t get replaced they get added to).
There are so many things to criticise, point out or rant against that I’m almost not sure where to start. I see from the comments that a reassuring number of people have known where to start and have written their own blog posts and made their own observations. I’ll add one or two of my own. There is a sentiment almost expressed at the beginning that I agree with: “Why can’t we just be people?” Unfortunately she immediately undermines this sentiment with everything she says next. She treats women like idiots and men as rapey animals who can’t help themselves.
Here’s a comment from Laura: “…there’s some dude that’s gonna want to fuck you.”
A key word for me in that sentence is ‘want’. A guy can want to fuck someone all he likes, and that is a very different thing to actually doing it without consent. That then turns from ‘fucking’ into ‘raping’.
Here’s another comment from Laura: “You gotta be careful and it’s up to you to own that responsibility and keep yourself in safe situations.”
Arguably it is also up to the man to own the responsibility not to do any raping.
And here’s the question, there are many, many people who agree with every word these ‘feminist’ comedians said; why aren’t men more angry about this? Why aren’t men appalled at being portrayed as animals (literally in this example) who cannot use reason, emotion, intellect, decency when confronted with the female form?
There is a quote that went round twitter this week, from a mum whose son had had some sex education at college. It was this: ‘Consent is too low a bar. Hold out for enthusiasm’.
What a fantastic sentiment. Hold out for enthusiasm.