It’s Only Anger

Anger. It’s a crappy emotion isn’t it? Full of violence and lashing out and doing away with rationale. 

Or is it? 

I’ve been doing some reading, and some thinking (not necessarily in that order), about how we like to deny anger. One of the articles I was reading talked about the fact that in particular girls are taught to be passive and are not encouraged in learning about how to deal with their anger and how to use it positively. 

A woman who I used to work with, and who is an amazingly talented performer (not quite sure what that’s got to do with it, but it felt important to say) started something called The Fury Project a little while ago, all about exploring anger artistically, particularly around expressions of gender and race. It’s here, if you want to take a look:

It’s all led me to wondering how to teach my daughters about anger. There’s no doubt that it’s easier to parent when they are passive, but that isn’t necessarily a good thing. I want them to be able to stand their ground in the classroom, in the workplace, in the boardroom. I want them to be able to cope with expressions of anger, both directed at them and their own, I want them to have a healthy relationship with a healthy emotion. Because let’s face it, there’s an awful lot to be angry about. 

So how do I, (and I hate confrontation), teach them about anger?  Answers on a postcard (or comment box) please.